Actor and content creator Ajayi Akorede, better known as Korexx, has shared his belief that not all men are wired to desire women. He explained that many men are socially conditioned to desire women lustfully by family and friends, which creates a “false need” for women.
Korexx expressed concern that this desire for women has become a prerequisite for men to fit in with the masculine community, which in turn affects platonic relationships between men and women.
In a video shared on his social media, Korexx said, “I believe not all men are wired to desire women lustfully. Most men grow up loving things like family, friends, video games, movies, sports, and the dreams of who they want to become in the future. But as they get older, they fall victim to social conditioning, which forces them to start craving and desiring women. This influence mostly comes from older male figures like uncles, older brothers, cousins, and friends. This conditioning creates a false desire that wasn’t there originally. And because no one wants to stand out, you end up going along with the lustful talk to fit in.”
He continued, “Desiring women lustfully has become a survival skill for men to feel accepted in the masculine community, so they don’t feel weird or different. And when you do it long enough, you end up forcing yourself to enjoy it, even if it doesn’t align with your true self. It also taps into a man’s need for adventure and challenge, so we learn to see pursuing women as a sport.”
Korexx acknowledged that some might argue biological factors, like puberty and hormones, contribute to lustful desires but emphasized that social conditioning plays a major role in exaggerating them. He mentioned how this has made it difficult for men to have strong, platonic friendships with women without romantic or lustful undertones.
He reflected on his own experience, saying, “I remember having female friends with no romantic feelings involved until one uncle or friend said, ‘She’s actually pretty! Can’t you see that?’ And just like that, your perception changes, and you start feeling differently, even though deep down, there was no lustful desire before.”
On a deeper note, Korexx believes that most men are driven by purpose and the desire to add value, rather than a lust for women. He pointed out that some men, despite being surrounded by beautiful women, are still unfulfilled because they haven’t connected with their deeper sense of purpose. “Some men have the most beautiful women around them, yet they still seek something else, because they’ve lost touch with that core part of themselves that wasn’t focused on these things to begin with,” he concluded.
